Whatever You Want is Already Yours

Recently I've been reading a book called "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle. It's an amazing book for those who are into finding a little more inner-peace in their lives. It's not a religious book by any means (as the Jesus quote at the end of the citing might suggest), however it does quote from different religions as to recognize certain philosophical principles. Anyhow I hopped up on this section in his book and thought it's something everyone can get a little bit out of. Check it out:

ABUNDANCE

Who you think you are is also intimately connected with how you see yourself treated by others. Many people complain that others do not treat them well enough. "I don't get any respect, attention, recognition, acknowledgment," they say. "I'm being taken for granted." When people are kind, they suspect hidden motives. "Others want to manipulate me, to take advantage of me. Nobody loves me."

Who they think they are is this "I am a needy 'little me' whose needs are not being met." This basic misperception of who they are creates dysfunction in all their relationships. They believe they have nothing to give and that the world or other people are withholding from them what they need. Their entire reality is based on an illusory sense of who they are. It sabotages situations, mars all relationships. If the thought of lack - whether it be money, recognition, or love - has become part of who you think you are, you will always experience lack. Rather than acknowledge the good that is already in your life, all you see is lack. Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance. The fact is: Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world. You are withholding it because deep down you think you are small and that you have nothing to give.

Try this for a couple of weeks and see how it changes your reality: Whatever you think people are withholding from you - praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on - give it to them. You don't have it? Just act as if you had it, it will come. Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don't give. Outflow determines inflow. Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you already have, but unless you allow it to flow out, you won't even know that you have it. This includes abundance. The law that outflow determines inflow is expressed by Jesus in this powerful image: "Give and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap."

Why I Like Homosexuals

Uh-Oh.

I know I am going to get shit for writing a title like that.

And you know what? Im completely comfortable in saying that.

As a man, it can be difficult to make statements like this. The guy code doesn't allow us to use the words "I like" and "homosexuals" in the same sentence, unless there is a "dont" between "I" and "like". I mean that is a whole other can of worms that I could go into for hours but let me stay on point.

So, let's be honest here: We all like interesting people. We all like people who can make us laugh, be goofy and, most importantly, be themselves. People who are restrained and hold back from who they really are tend to be boring and difficult to connect with. I know I can be as guilty as anyone; too afraid to be different or to stand out that I'm just boring.

Well, in my experience, people who come out of the closet tend to be people who are more connected with themselves in some way (It's a generalization, I know). From my experience in meeting people, gay men and women have a certain comfortablity with themselves.

Now this doesn't mean that they are completely in touch with themselves or perfect people by any means. I guess what I'm saying is I felt that they have a much easier time connecting with others, with finding their own internal values and in general, being social.

I really have to stress here again that it is a generalization, yes, but it is something I have generally picked up on.

So I was thinking about why this is.

I mean haven't you ever met that really flamboyant gay guy who was unafraid of people (in a social sense) or who was obnoxious in public or who just has a really good time with whoever is around them? The flamboyant gay guy can totally be the stereotype. And it's funny because I've met many who are quite completely to the contrary, really quiet guys who are rather afraid to "stir the pot" and offend people.

The thing is though, I was wondering just why this is. Why can some people just do what they want, not caring or giving a fuck what people think?

I have some inklings as to why, but let me draw a comparison from a story I just heard about.

I was reading a book that mentioned the true story of Art Berg, a successful businessman who became quadreplegic after an accident. He lost mobility in his legs and arms (obviously) and eventually was able to use a wheelchair, type with two fingers and dress himself in the morning. He was having a hard time getting a job though. Over the phone the interviewer loved him, but when they actually saw him and his condition they changed their mind. He eventually got a job with IBM doing some sort of sales job and becamse SUPER successful doing that. He eventually started traveling and public speaking making money that way. And as cool as all that is, and as successful as he was by societal standards, the guy just lived an amazing life. Initially doctor's noted that he was exhibiting "excessive happiness" and it probably confused the hell out them. How can this guy be so happy when he just lost the use of almost all his faculties? Well through losing so much he gained something else, some kind of wisdom or enlightenment.

Art Berg lost the use of his body and by doing so lost other things that might have been holding him back before.

He obviously gained some real amazing social skills to be able to be such a great salesman and public speaker.

But seriously, think about it. Your stuck in a wheelchair and can't do any of the old things you were so used to doing before.

So what do you do?

I figure you go down one of two roads. Either you play the victim or you see an opportunity to grow.

I imagine for Art Berg he just said "Well there's really not anything worse than this but death, so fuck it, why be scared of anything." He became a high-value social guy who, I can imagine, had an extremely magnetic personality. He dropped the ego and just did what he wanted.

Now to bring this story back full circle, think of this in terms of someone who has to tell his/her family and friends that he/she is gay. While I'm sure there are plenty of those friends and family members still hold the same respect and love for that individual, but there will always be people who don't approve and plenty of hurt and pain from that. I can tell you from stories I've heard, it can be extremely painful.

So after you've gone through that, through your deepest fears of being judged and hated, you kind of just go "Ehhh, it's not that bad. I'm still alive, I'm still here." You lose those things that hold you back: fear of judgement, fear of acceptance. It's a beautiful thing.

It's something I admire because it's something I struggle with every day of my life.

With that being said, I have the utmost respect anyone who just goes after what they want. I have the utmost respect for people who know what their values are and just go for it. I have the utmost respect who are afraid of what "could happen" and still push through the pain and uncomfortableness. Most importantly I have the utmost respect for people who give themselves permission to live life happily.

And this is why I like homosexuals.